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Jenn Price does not proclaim to be an expert on dating…but her years of practice (and willingness to share stories) will certainly get people talking. Join in the dialogue each week as Jenn tackles matters of the heart.
When does “me” become a “we?”
We’ve all been the odd woman out at some point in our lives… At what point in a relationship do we assume that invitations from friends imply that we are a “we?”
Being single and not in a “defined” relationship, I assume that when I invite my girlfriends out or over, that I am inviting my GIRLfriends and not their husbands, fiancés or boyfriends along for the occasion (even if “Girls’ Night” isn’t explicitly said).
I am gathering, that from the coupled-girls’ eyes, this is not the case!
I love that I make friends with people from many circles and connect them. I’ve always been the hub of the wheel or the glue of the family, if you will. Often, people I connect develop their own friendships and sometimes, those with significant others bond as couples too (and I love it).
Two of my besties and their boys recently had a dinner & games night in. When I accidentally found out about their double date after the fact, I will admit, it stung a little bit. I get it. Your guy bonds with her guy and they need some guy time facilitated by the girls. If I were you, I’d love that as well.
I know my girls love me, and if I get hung up on something like that I might end up on the island of lonelihood! So, it’s water under the bridge (and a good blog topic).
On the other side of the story, I recently hosted a party for my mom included some of my friends who know her as well. I wanted to keep the party intimate, so I let my girlfriends know that while I love their guys, this was an invite for the girls. And while they said they understood, most of the girls in couples didn’t show.
These types of things will be easier once I’m part of a couple too, but navigating along the way can be a bit rocky. As long as my girls know that I will never feel like a 5th wheel (and don’t need an invite to everything they do as couples), just like they won’t want to do everything I do as a single, then we’ll all be fine without hard feelings. Just remember, from time to time, the me’s and we’s can all hang out in perfect harmony!
Share your stories and thoughts about me’s and we’s!