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Jenn Price does not proclaim to be an expert on dating…but her years of practice (and willingness to share stories) will certainly get people talking. Join in the dialogue each week as Jenn tackles matters of the heart.
Looking forward to a date with a great guy and “IT” suddenly appears on your face. Do you cancel?
It’s a gamble. Either risk being self-conscious the whole way through or cancel and on the upside, appear to be mysterious or, on the downside, appear to be playing hard to get. (No one likes to be played.)
I was recently faced with this decision. Even the best concealer couldn’t help my crater that looked like a huge wart-like abscess, smack in the middle of my forehead. I couldn’t even fake a side swept bang to cover it! I swear, as I walked down the street, passersby were staring.
My girlfriend recently had a big cold sore right in the corner of her mouth. She had hoped it would have gone away by date day, but it was still there in full form. Since they had already crossed the make out line, she knew she would have to draw attention to it if she kept the date (it isn’t as “easy” as hoping a guy doesn’t notice a pimple, as pimples aren’t contagious)
She cancelled, I did not. (It’s not like my guy was going to make out with my forehead.)
I guess I figured, if we are going to end up together, zits happen. It’s not like I had bad breath or body odour. He needs to know that I get zits once a month (thankfully this one was an anomaly in size, scope and the length of time it lasted). While it went unmentioned throughout the evening, I couldn’t help but wonder if he was being polite, or if he miraculously hadn’t noticed (since he wasn’t afraid of a good night kiss, and since we did have subsequent dates, it really doesn’t matter at this point).
There are also “self-imposed” IT factor maneuvers that many a girl has taken to in order to increase her willpower. The most common one? “I’m not shaving my legs so we won’t go past first base” move. This is a good one for dates within the first couple of months (especially if you really like the guy and want to hold off on doing ‘it’ for the first little while). This one is really for the girls, as very few guys actually care if a girl’s legs are fully shaved or not (as for other areas below the waist, well, that’s left to personal discretion).
The fact is, female and male, we’re all human. Truly falling in love with someone means accepting their blemishes, imperfections and their sometimes scruffy parts. Perhaps once we feel comfortable enough to let our guards down and reveal these things to each other, is when we lose the fears and appreciate the whole person that’s in front of us.
Have you ever cancelled a date do to an “IT” factor?
Would you?
What do you think is cancel-worthy?