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Jenn Price does not proclaim to be an expert on dating…but her years of practice (and willingness to share stories) will certainly get people talking. Join in the dialogue each week as Jenn tackles matters of the heart.
Soul Mating
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(Mar.30.10)
Is there only one person out there for us that is a perfect match, a.k.a., our soulmate?
I have pondered this on many occasions with girlfriends, both single and attached. My personal definition of a soulmate is rather idealistic and romantic: someone with whom you’re so in sync with that your connection goes beyond anything that’s physically definable. I believe we can have many throughout the course of our lives.
The person we may choose to commit to, is (hopefully) one of them. I also think timing plays a huge factor in making that choice.
I recently searched the term 'soulmate' online, to see what comes up, and surprise, surprise; I learned something.
According to Greek mythology, (as outlined on www.solvedating.com) our ancestors (the gods) had two heads and four arms. As a punishment, they were split down the middle, creating humans. Since then, we’ve been condemned to spend our lives searching for our other half (or our soulmate). That sure puts the tortured elements into love, doesn’t it?
Believing there is only one person in this world that is our true match, feels unsettling and stifling to me, not to mention the cause of many crazed questions.
What if this person could be my soulmate, but the real one is just around the corner? (Hence, the commitment-phobia?) What if my other half has already chosen someone else? What if my soulmate dies before we are united? Am I then doomed to be single forever, or will I be forced to choose someone who's not perfect for me?
The questions are endless.
At some point, if we want to share and build a life with a partner, we have to stop the doubt and gain confidence in our ability to decide and commit (and ultimately, trust our instincts).
Looking for something from a place of deficiency doesn’t usually bring us what we do want, it usually brings us more of what we don’t want (if that’s what we're focusing on).
Call me unromantic or strange, but I’ve never been a fan of the famous Jerry Maguire line “you complete me”. I don't buy into that line of thinking (even though I would have melted too!). I just feel that in relationships, 1+1=3 and that there is synergy to be had between two whole people.
That’s what I’m searching for. And in the meantime, I’m making sure I’m a full 'one' with my one head and two arms, that doesn’t need to be completed, but rather, enhanced. Complemented, if you will.
What is your opinion of soulmates? Have you found yours? Do you think we can have more than one?