It’s often said that the most stylish of women dress not for men, but for other women. As wonderful as it is to receive a compliment from a man about an outfit, it can be even more meaningful to receive a compliment about that outfit from a woman. Now, who really appreciates what’s underneath this said outfit?
Who do women usually buy and wear
sexy lingerie for? The obvious knee jerk answer might be men - but is this really true?
A girlfriend of mine told me a story about a guy she was dating and how he confessed that he had a weakness for sexy, lacy lingerie. Being really into the guy and excited to take things to the next level, she went out and spent hundreds of dollars on special pieces to wear for him. On date night, she was excited for the big reveal.
It turned out that this guy, like many out there, couldn’t wait to demonstrate his fancy finger work and unclip the bra from behind (even before removing her top!) He was so overly eager that he even ripped her other delicate, lacy "unmentionables." (I didn’t ask how long that session lasted.)
In conversation with girlfriends about this topic, it seems that fancy lingerie never ends up lingering for long. So, is it worth the splurge?
I say yes. What’s underneath can give a gal a sense of confidence, a certain je ne sais quoi, as she goes about her day or date.
I’ve read in many a Cosmo-esque magazine that guys are usually so excited to get to the bare skin, that they have little judgment for how the breasts actually look - this could very well be true of the bra as well.
Perhaps lingerie plays a more important role in an established, longer-term relationship. It can be a tool or a prop if you will, that keeps things fresh and sexy. Something over-the-top can be used to help facilitate fantasies or even role-playing.
When it comes to newer relationships, in order to make sure the lingerie lingers a little longer (and so that it’s hopefully appreciated), I guess it’s up to the woman to remove her first layer (without her man’s fancy fingers in reach) and make sure her pretty package is noticed.
When all is said and done, when a woman feels sexy and confident, regardless of how her skivvies look (or how she looks in them), this energy will be irresistible to the right man. That alone makes for great foreplay.
Is sexy lingerie a staple in your wardrobe? Do you dress for you, for men or for other women?