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Jenn Price does not proclaim to be an expert on dating…but her years of practice (and willingness to share stories) will certainly get people talking. Join in the dialogue each week as Jenn tackles matters of the heart.
We all have at least one. What’s yours?
I love the term "secret single behaviour (SSB)", which was originally coined by Carrie in a season four episode of Sex and the City, entitled The Good Fight.
Single or not, we all have certain habits or guilty pleasures that we prefer to (or perhaps should) keep to ourselves. When someone becomes part of a "we" and starts sharing living space with a significant other, they start thinking about their SSBs. We either abandon them, if it's possible, or decide to own them with conviction and pray that our partner loves all of us (including our quirky habits).
Perhaps you’re someone who belches, or someone who takes pleasure in letting a loud one slip between the sheets or bubble up in the bathtub. Maybe you pick your nose and examine it, lick a plate clean after a good meal or vacuum in the nude. Admit it: when you’re alone and behind closed doors, there are some things you do without inhibition that you'd think twice about doing in the company of someone else.
I could spend hours in the mirror examining my pores and squeezing them clean (or at least hollow). I sometimes emerge from a session (I call it surgery) with a face full of red blotches and random puffy spots that can take a while to clear up. I once slipped into this bedtime bathroom ritual, almost forgetting that I wasn’t home alone. When I emerged, my guy (at first thinking I was taking a long read on the toilet) looked puzzled and asked, “what happened to your face?”. Clearly, he didn’t know my routine, and that my facial skin would get back to normal soon.
Even more uncomfortable was the first time I spent several days with someone new. For the entire trip, I held in every urge to toot. (Even when I had full privacy, nothing happened and I actually made myself constipated.) He knew that something was up when I started downing fibre like there was no tomorrow. Point being, if I’d been alone, nature would have taken its course without a second thought. It then became an inside joke between us. He would come out of a convenience store with a Fiber One or All Bran bar for me and we’d have a good laugh.
There are some things we are embarrassed about, and some things we want to keep as our own private little rituals. I say, never lose yourself in a relationship, yet ease into full disclosure, for your sake, and theirs.
What are some of your secret single behaviours? Have you ever caught a partner off-guard with a habit that seemed strange to them?