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Jenn Price does not proclaim to be an expert on dating…but her years of practice (and willingness to share stories) will certainly get people talking. Join in the dialogue each week as Jenn tackles matters of the heart.
I was recently at a hair salon in Montreal, indulging in one of my favourite pampering pastimes: the blow dry. As I waited to begin, the stylist told me he needed a couple of minutes. He went outside, had a few drags of a cigarette and returned to coif my hair with his smelly hands. The odour was so strong that it made me gag. It reminded me why I could never date a smoker. (On a side note, the blow out was fabulous, and I’ll definitely be going back.)
I’ve met plenty of good guys over the years, but the smokers never made their way too far into my heart. I could handle guys having the odd cigarette, especially while drinking socially, but anyone that smoked daily especially with their morning coffee or after every meal was just not for me.
I once really started to like a guy who was a smoker, but before I allowed myself to get too attached, I asked him if he thought he’d always be a smoker. Thankfully, he was honest and told me that he never saw himself quitting. He went on to say that if he ever did, it would be out of necessity due to health implications, not by choice.
To me, that was like a shopaholic saying she’ll stop going into debt when she can no longer access any more credit!
When I told him I could never get seriously involved with a smoker, he was hurt, and some of my close friends and family thought I was being too harsh. I just knew myself and I knew what I wanted (and didn’t want) in a man.
I’m sure I have some deal-breaking habits for many guys as well. Finding a match is a personal thing. (I have plenty of friends that smoke, I just knew that I wouldn’t want to marry someone that needed nicotine to get through each day.)
I can imagine that tackling such a strong habit as a couple could either bring two people closer together or tear them apart. Luckily for me (and for my guy) there aren’t any major habits we have to deal with.
What are your experiences with smoking or other habits that didn’t jive with your own?