About Carly Cooper
A certified Life Coach for Moms and creator of www.balance-the-mother-load.com, Carly Cooper’s blog offers helpful strategies for mothers struggling with guilt, unrealistic expectations and the inability to balance it all – with a generous dose of laughter.
Reuinited and It Feels So Good
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(Oct.07.09)
I'm still coming down from the buzz I felt this past weekend. And it's not from the dessert wine I learned to love after my dinner. My husband Marc and I took a much needed mini-vacation. For the past six months, life got in our way. Work was demanding (spring and summer are Marc's busiest time), stress and overwhelm took over and as a result our relationship got off track.
We knew things had to change. We decided that after the summer we were going to make a point to revisit our priorities, focus more on each other and find the love again. So we booked a one night stay in a quaint little town called Jordan. The air was crisp, the smell of fresh fudge was in the air, and the sketchy man with long, wiry hair standing in front of his house with a Confederate Flag hanging in the window only mildly creeped me out. I was indeed in a good mental place.
We indulged in a spa treatment, good food and enjoyed plenty of relaxation. We even went on a small hike to a place called Ball's Falls. When I finally stopped giggling at the name, I appreciated the beauty of the nature that surrounded me. It felt like we were on our honeymoon again. And after being with someone for 15 years, that's not always an easy feeling to recapture.
As human beings, we all want to feel loved and connected. But as life, work and kids get in the way, it's easy to lose that lovin' feeling. Kids learn from their environment and they pick up on the vibe that you and your partner send out. What are you teaching your kids about relationships and love?
If you feel like your relationship has derailed, here are 5 tips to get you back on track.
1. Schedule a date night every week. You don't have spend a lot of money or even go out. Just commit to spending quality time together without the kids.
2. Send him a greeting card just because.
3. Think about an activity that you both liked to do together before you had kids. Make a point of fitting that into your lives again.
4. Make a list of all the things you love about your partner and read it every time he pisses you off.
5. Give without expecting anything in return. When you come from an authentic place, the love comes back to you tenfold.
Commit to doing at least one thing on this list today and enjoy the feeling of falling in love all over again.
What are your secrets for keeping the home fires burning? Have a question for Coach Carly? Share them in the comments below.