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How Did You Know You Wanted Kids?
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(Jul.20.11)
Since Nadine has left the sweetspot.ca clan (in body but not in spirit!) us non-mom editors are tackling notions of family and parenting from our own unique view. This week, Sam wonders how you knew you wanted kids.
I just turned 26 and I just bought my first home. I've been with my boyfriend for four years. It's inevitable that the marriage and kid questions will come up at least once at family gatherings.
The truth is: I don't have an answer yet. Sure, I love kids. I love that my boyfriend has nieces and nephews under 10. I love making goo-goo eyes at babies on the subway (even if their parents don't love it quite as much). I enjoy babysitting and playing with any kid that's interested; soccer, crafts, cookies, I do it all. But do I relish that at the end of the day, I can go home, kick my feet up on the couch, have a glass of wine, and enjoy True Blood or Game of Thrones in peace? Absolutely.
I've heard that this is just the selfish age where everything is about me and that eventually, there will be nothing that can (or will) stand in between me and a happy, healthy child of my own.
But I'm not sure that's the truth. Maybe one day, I will want to have a baby — but maybe I won't. Maybe I'll save enough money that I can adopt a baby from Canada or abroad — but maybe I won't. The problem is, these are conversations that are important to have before you dive into marriage. You have to make sure that you and your significant other are on the same page. But I just don't understand how you can know that sort of thing until you know. If you know what I mean.
So SweetMamas, how did you know that you wanted kids?
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