About Joanna Track
Four years ago, Sweetspot.ca Founder Joanna Track settled down with her darling husband and his two adorable young boys. She’s since added “new mom” to her long list of achievements with the addition of baby Teddy. Check back weekly for her tales of sweet family life.
The Pregnancy Paradox
me and my boys canada
(Nov.06.09)
Oh no, I’m pregnant. Oh no, I’m not. Yes, I am. No, I’m not….aghhh!
Like many women, I feel like I’ve spent the greater part of my adult life either trying to get pregnant, or trying not to get pregnant. And after decades of doing this dance, I am burnt out.
And I’m not alone. So many women I speak to seem to feel the same way. We spend our “formative years”, taking care not to get knocked up, and when we finally open up the proverbial floodgates, we find we may not be overflowing with fertility after all. If only I’d known this was the case, I could have stopped pumping myself with hormones ages ago!
Our teachers and parents warn us of how it just takes that “one time” which is why you need to be careful all of the time. But when you really break it down, so many factors need to align in order to get pregnant, that it truly is a miracle that anyone does.
Then you decide you want to get pregnant. So after years of preventative measures, suddenly we’re doing everything under the sun to make it happen. From drugs to acupuncture, to standing on our heads, we’ll try just about anything.
Which leads to the flip side. Given all the things that have to be “just right”, how on earth do so many people get pregnant by accident? I find it truly amazing. I have one friend who got an IUD, only to find out a few months later that she was pregnant (apparently it had been unknowingly pulled out with a tampon). And another friend, who had a baby through IVF after three years of trying, then got pregnant naturally when her baby was a mere six-months-old!
All these pregnancy stories make me dizzy with indecision. With my little guy just rounding the corner of four months, getting pregnant has gone back down to the bottom of my priority list. But that doesn’t mean it will be there forever. And then what if I reprioritize but my body is not on the same schedule? For a control freak like myself, this is a true conundrum.
Instead of taking THE pill, maybe I just need to take a pill and relax. But don’t they say you are more likely to get pregnant when you are relaxed about the whole thing? Ahh, here I go again!
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