About Rebecca Eckler
Since becoming pregnant with her daughter Rowan, Canadian journalist and author Rebecca Eckler has penned three hilarious books, including the best-selling Knocked Up. Catch Rebecca’s weekly unique perspective on motherhood and single parenthood.
So, there’s been a man in my life for a number of years. We are on and off and on and off and on and off and on and off and on and off….and you get the picture. He’s not my boyfriend. I’m not his girlfriend. Or sometimes I am. Or that’s how he treats me. He’ll call me five times a day and he gets very jealous about other men I’ve been in relationships with.
When we’re good, we’re really, really good. When we’re not good, we’re really not good, and sometimes can go months without speaking to each other. And then I’ll run into him. Or I’ll break down and call him. Or he’ll break down and call me. Because I miss him. And he misses me.
I ask you: Have you ever known anyone, or been in a relationship, that has been on and off and on and off and on and off….with a happy ending?
I don’t moan about this man anymore. I haven’t moaned about him in a long time. My friends have long accepted that this is our relationship, if you can call it that. The most they ask now is, “So are you guys talking?”
The thing about this man is that I truly like him and love him too. He always has my back. I can tell him anything and he won’t judge. Whenever I have a problem, he’ll listen and tell me what I should do. I’m attracted to him. He’s attracted to me. He makes me laugh.
So, I ask, why can’t we get our shit together? A lot of it is my fault. Rather, it’s my personality. I like a lot of alone time. I like waking up alone. I’m flakey when it comes to making plans. I love to travel.
A lot of it is his personality. I think he’s a bit of a commitment-phobe. The guy never has a bad day. He’s very laid back. And he likes to party way more than I do.
Yet…still….we always end up back together. But choices do have to be made. I’m not getting any younger (and neither is he). I do want to be in a committed relationship.
One could argue that because we are so on and off and so on and off that obviously something doesn’t work with us. Or, one can argue that we always get back together, so there must be something there worth fighting for.
Like all of us, we want a fairy tale ending. Will I have one? What do you think? Can an on again off again on again off again relationship actually work? Share.
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