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Warning: You may want to gag while reading this post. Last night, the man I’ve been seeing told me he had “fallen in love with me.”
I know! I know! I know! I know! Oh my god, the first time someone says that to you is like, well, I felt like I was on some sort of illegal (but fun!) drug!
But it was, I’ll admit, slightly awkward. We were making out (JUST MAKING OUT) and suddenly he said, “I have to tell you something but I don’t want you to get upset.”
My first thought was, “Oh my god. What did I do wrong?” So, that’s what I said, “Oh no, what did I do wrong?”
He kept kissing me (please don’t gag), and then said, “I’ve fallen in love with you.”
I’ll stop going on now about how he said, “I’ve fallen in love with you,” but it made me wonder: who should say it first in a relationship? And when is it too soon to say those words?
Personally, at first, I thought it was too soon. But then I thought, “WTF? Is it ever too soon?” I mean we all know people who get married within six months (I’m not saying I’m going to marry the guy. Marriage has never been my M.O.).
And then I thought, how BRAVE it is to say those three little words first. I’ve mostly loved all my exes, and, truthfully, I don’t remember who said those three little words first when we were dating. Knowing me, I probably waited for them to say it first, just because I’m stubborn.
But I have a feeling that women usually fall in love and want to say those words first, but we want the guy to say it first, so we wait.
I’m sure you’re all wondering how I responded. I told the truth. “I’m not sure I’m there yet, but I’m definitely getting there.”
Was this the appropriate response? You tell me.
But I’m more interested in hearing from you happily (or not happily - whatever) married people or those in a serious relationship, who said, “I love you” first to your partner. Was it you, the female? Or was it the guy? And if you have any cute gag-worthy stories about the first “I love you” please share. I love those stories.
Someone loves me. Yay! (Please don’t gag!)
Xoxox